Tag Archives: balance

A Preview of Addiction & Grace

Addiction & Grace by Gerald May

Our new Wholeness Group meets again tomorrow evening at the church, 6:30 PM. It is a group that is open to everyone. The book we are reading is Addiction & Grace by Gerald May, and it has tons of good stuff for our conversation. Here is one of my favorite few sentences from the first few chapters:

Grace is the most powerful force in the universe. It can transcend repression, addiction, and every other internal or external power that seeks to oppress the freedom of the human heart. Grace is where our hope lies.

Our wholeness group is not about fixing anyone. I don’t think any of us have any answers in the first place. Addiction itself is a disease/process that all human beings are afflicted with. Some of us are addicted to chemical substances, and others are addicted to work, family, gossip, computers, information, power, and so on. And so while the book will help us understand the processes behind our addictions, the hope is that we will discover more about grace – why it is such a gift and how it can help us in our struggle to be loved and deal with our addictions.

Gerald May describes sin as anything that gets in the way of us being able to fully love ourselves, one another, and God. I like that definition a lot. One of our key directions of our group is that we will explore that in deeper detail but also practice some ways of finding balance in our lives, balance in our relationships with God and one another.

Join us – it’s an open invitation. I will have some extra books on hand if you are joining us for the first time.


Jesus as Healer

Jesus and the Death Star

I preach this coming Sunday and explore our next little slice of Jesus’ identity as a healer.

I live firmly in a scientific world. It’s not something I could go back on either. I am trained in computer usage, which are entirely a product of our scientific knowledge accumulated rapidly over the past 100 years or so. I send my kids to a doctor and rely myself on drugs and other treatments that tend to be vetted by a broad medical community. In other words, I don’t just sit and pray for my sickness to disappear.

In essence, I dig science.

But still, I am challenged, as a Christian, to struggle with the healing stories in the Bible. What are they really about? Is miraculous healing available to those who need it? Are some people still healed without the help of a hospital or modern science? What do I do with these stories as someone who relies on the scientific worldview to do what I need to do?

One clue forward as a faithful follower of Jesus is to understand that healing in the Bible is often broader than simply a physical change in one’s body. When Jesus heals the poor, the sick, the lame, and the blind, he is also making a profound prophetic statement. Healing and salvation are rarely separate for Jesus. Healing is more than just the eradication of a disease or infirmity, but it is a reinclusion of someone into the life of the broader community. So, those who are on the edges, without economic means to sustain themselves or without any other resources, are given a new identity and a second chance.

That’s cool.

It’s kind of like what happens when someone off the street with severe mental disorders is able to get on medication, stabilize their life, and begin to find a place in a local community. From a homeless nobody to a named member of the community.

Of course, like most Christians, I still walk this strange balance of living in two worlds, this world of faith and this world of science. I like both worlds. I want to keep a foot in each, and yet it’s never quite a simple balance. I know friends and family members who claim to have been touched or experienced miraculous healings, which is awesome. But I still will keep seeing my doctor and trusting the many improvements science has brought to the world.

But maybe Jesus wants us to walk along these uncomfortable boundaries, for it is in these places, that we often find lots of hurting people who need help navigating one world or the other.

What do you think? Is Jesus a source of untapped healing power that could replace our hospitals in our world? Or is Jesus healing just a one time event? Or is it somewhere in between? How do you walk the balancing act?

(Jesus healing the Death Star image is way too much fun – credit to the AnonGallery.)


Children are vulnerable

Nathan and Joseph at Mount Scott

As a parent with two young, wild, and amazing children, about half the time I want to put a leash on them… and the other half, I feel like I’m the one with a leash.

Think about it this way. Children ARE vulnerable. We hear it from our children’s doctor every time we visit – be careful around pools, be careful what they put in their mouths, make sure they wash their hands, watch what you say around them, so on and on.

You have to have your head on a swivel, always keeping them in the corner of your eye.

Just the other day, Joseph, our two year old, climbed down from the steps on his grandmother’s porch, saw a cat in the neighbor’s yard across the street, and took off with joy, curiosity, and reckless abandon… never mind the busy street between him and the feline.

Such moments test you as a parent.

Other moments shouldn’t test you… but they do. Watching the kids play on a local playground should be an opportunity to sit back, relax, and let your little ones have fun, but that nagging suspicion that something terrible might happen if your child falls from a precarious perch from the tornado slide grows. You end up watching nervously, ticking off the moments till you can strap him or her back into the relative safety of their car seat or stroller.

Is there a perfect way? Maybe not. Parenting is what it is – an exercise in constant conversation and delicate maneuvering and hopeful decisions. Your child is vulnerable, and yet… we must all let go. We must trust that our kids will be okay.

Perhaps the worst case scenario is when a child grows up without such an attempt at balance. What happens when there is no supervision at all? What happens when a parent smothers a child in overbearing, micro-management parenting?

It’s funny that those two scenarios are also how a lot of people see God – either as One who is absent from Creation or the Ultimate Micro-manager.

I think the truth is that God is always shooting for that balance in our lives too. God knows we are all vulnerable. God sends people into our lives – friends, family, and mentors – to shepherd us along. The Bible’s constant underlying current and message of God’s preferential care for the poor and outcast in our midst also underscore this desire for people to treat each other with compassion. God also leaves us to our devices from time to time, sitting back as we learn, grow, make mistakes, and do what we think is best.

I have a lot to learn as a parent and as a human being. I bet you do too. As we attempt to find this kind of balance, may we always keep in mind how vulnerable all of life is… and especially remember those in our midst who are the most vulnerable of all.


Spirituality, not Religion

Are you a spiritual person?

Are you a religious person?

At one time in our culture, I don’t think anyone would accept that you can answer each of those questions differently. If you are spiritual, surely, you are religious. Or, if you are religious, surely, you have to be spiritual?

So many people in our communities have spiritual lives that may exist outside of a church or some other formalized institution. Spirituality can be a simple thing after all – finding connection with nature, spending time with the homeless at a local shelter, resting for an hour of silence in the corner of one’s home, hiking a long trail, digging up a flower bed in one’s backyard, cooking a big meal for family or friends, watching a moving film, and so on. All human beings are spiritual in one way or another, even if it doesn’t come with a sacred text, rules, or regular schedule.

For me, my spiritual life is connected to the time I spend with my family and time I spend with my imagination – reading books, watching movies, and playing games. I also deeply connect to God through music. Not only am I fed on a personal level, but I find my everyday spirituality strengthened and broadened from some of these activities.

How do you feed your spirituality? How do you connect the Holy in your life?

This Sunday, we close out our balance series by exploring our relationship with God as something that is part of our intricate balancing act in our lives. Join us!

 


Modern Family

Modern Family from ABC

Is your family normal?

And really, has there ever been a normal family?

Sitcoms like ABC’s Modern Family represent an emerging trend of tv shows that are beginning to look a little more like our families do – mixed up, bizarre, full of drama, and full of love. Every family has its black sheep, weird uncles, hidden secrets, and long-standing feuds. Every family has its family gatherings that are as heart-warming as they are chaotic. Every family has their someone who has been abandoned or hurt.

I wish it weren’t so – I wish we could find the blueprint to perfect families.

But until then, we have to accept, that as much as we receive love and support from our families, they can also be a major source of imbalance in our lives. One misspoken word, embarrassing story, old grudge, festering hurt, or perceived snub can set off another one of those whirlwinds of chaos in our lives. And this doesn’t even take into account those who have been really abandoned and rejected by their families – for not living up to lofty ideals or because God created them a little bit more uniquely than mom or dad or grandma might have wanted.

You can’t ever really avoid drama in your life. It happens.

But you can learn how to keep it from tipping you off balance – you can learn to say “no”.

One of the first words my 3 year old daughter picked up was no. It’s a powerful word. It began to give her identity apart from her mother and me. She was able to voice her opinion. She was able to begin to claim her power in a small way, even if she had to go to bed or eat her sandwich anyway.

This Sunday, we’re going to explore the power of saying “no” in our own modern families – not necessarily to try to cut ourselves off from them if they are causing us imbalance, heartache, and pain – but to use the word “no” to help put up healthy boundaries in our lives.

And with boundaries, we discover our own identity and power, a gift from God.

I hope this sounds intriguing and helpful to you – come learn more and share in the conversation this Sunday at the Table.


Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 32 other followers

%d bloggers like this: