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Rev. Dr. Sharon Watkins’ Pastoral Letter

Rev. Dr. Sharon Watkins, our General Minister and President of the Christian Church (Disciples of Christ), released this pastoral letter on the issue of sexuality within the life of the church. I highly recommend watching it. I am thankful for her work as a theologian, trying to make sense of what we are to do as faithful Christians when there is disagreement and division about an issue such as this. The most important thing she does is remind us that we are called to be gracious and welcoming at God’s table, regardless of how we feel or think about particular issues.

As for the Table, we welcome all to our community. We take seriously this idea that it is God’s table that we gather around, not our own. Since we don’t own it, how do we get to decide who can or cannot come? We too are guests.

I recognize though that it can be tough to dine with folks who have bullied or hurt others in the name of God. Our table, no matter the shape or beauty, can feel broken. We aren’t perfect ambassadors. Injustice still abounds in the church and in our world. People are still excluded and hurt. We are on a journey that is not yet complete.

Jesus said this – “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never be hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.

I believe that bread of life is available for everyone. I believe when we gather around the table, God feeds us regardless of our hateful ideas and our broken pasts. Bit by bit, we move along the arc of justice, slower than a lot of people would like, but forward nonetheless into God’s future where the divine dwells in harmony with all Creation. We can be a witness to wholeness in a divided world. We don’t have to be perfect to be part of the solution.

What is your response to Sharon’s message? Do you find hope or challenge in it?


Stand By Me

Church as an institution has lost lots of its luster in our modern day and for good reason. We have been rocked by scandal, whether it is sexual predators that our institutions have attempted to cover up or ignore, messages that end up sounding hypocritical and judgmental, or missions that focus on divisiveness over compassion. The church has seemed severely out of touch, at best, or complicit, at worst, in some of the turmoil, chaos, and brokenness in our world.

Granted, the church is made up of normal people who can make poor choices, respond out of fear, or seek to protect what they preserve as sacred. In that sense, we are no different than many corporate and political leaders who also fall into the same traps. Many of our failures are played out on a public stage, sometimes by our own request.

I understand that the church is in a period of deep transformation. A lot of folks have felt excluded and hurt over the years. Some churches are beginning to address those abuses of power and theology. Some are beginning to reach out and find a way forward filled with forgiveness, healing, and hope. The question for folks of my generation and below remains – will church still have a place in our future?

I think so.

We did the version of “Stand By Me” at the Table this past Sunday. It’s a fun song, but it also speaks to one of the great blessings of church that still remains and continues to have deep potential to connect with people -

Presence.

Being with people in their need, in their struggle, and in their fear.

I can personally speak to the many times when my church has stood with me, surrounded me in love, or encouraged me in times of struggle. My friends were a great help too, but when a church “stands by you”, it’s a bit different. They don’t love me because they are my friend. They love me because I am a child of God. I experienced this again recently with the passing of my grandmother, and my church family poured out care for me. I felt loved. I felt connected. I felt reassured. I felt God’s presence around.

Our world needs more of that divine presence, standing with others in the midst of pain, isolation, and fear. Standing with folks who face injustice. Standing with people who have seemingly lost everything. Standing with those are heartbroken. Standing with those without family or friend.

That’s a vision of church that will thrive for years to come. That’s part of my vision of our community called the Table here in East Dallas.

Won’t you stand by me?


From the Service of Remembrance Last Night

I thought I would pipe in and share a few words from our Service of Remembrance last night, a reminder that the Christmas season is not a cheery, jolly time for everyone. Indeed, a lot of people out there feel great despair and loneliness. If you are one of them, you are not alone, and I hope you know that God is big enough to receive the grief, pain, and sadness you carry.

God did not wait until the world was ready, till the nations were at peace.
God came when the heavens were unsteady and prisoners cried for release.
God did not wait for the perfect time.
God came when the need was deep and great. God dined with sinners in all their grime.
God did not wait until the hearts were pure.
In JOY God came to a tarnished world of sin and doubt. To a world of anguish and shame. God came in JOY, and His light never goes out.
God came to a world which did not mesh; to heal its ill, and shield its scorn.
In the mystery of the Word made flesh, the maker of the stars were born.
We cannot wait until the world is whole, to raise our songs with joyful voice, to share our grief, to touch our pain.
God came in grace, with love. Rejoice! Rejoice!

- Adapted from “First Coming” by Madeleine L’Engle in the Blue Christmas service


Exploring Advent


Modern Family

Modern Family from ABC

Is your family normal?

And really, has there ever been a normal family?

Sitcoms like ABC’s Modern Family represent an emerging trend of tv shows that are beginning to look a little more like our families do – mixed up, bizarre, full of drama, and full of love. Every family has its black sheep, weird uncles, hidden secrets, and long-standing feuds. Every family has its family gatherings that are as heart-warming as they are chaotic. Every family has their someone who has been abandoned or hurt.

I wish it weren’t so – I wish we could find the blueprint to perfect families.

But until then, we have to accept, that as much as we receive love and support from our families, they can also be a major source of imbalance in our lives. One misspoken word, embarrassing story, old grudge, festering hurt, or perceived snub can set off another one of those whirlwinds of chaos in our lives. And this doesn’t even take into account those who have been really abandoned and rejected by their families – for not living up to lofty ideals or because God created them a little bit more uniquely than mom or dad or grandma might have wanted.

You can’t ever really avoid drama in your life. It happens.

But you can learn how to keep it from tipping you off balance – you can learn to say “no”.

One of the first words my 3 year old daughter picked up was no. It’s a powerful word. It began to give her identity apart from her mother and me. She was able to voice her opinion. She was able to begin to claim her power in a small way, even if she had to go to bed or eat her sandwich anyway.

This Sunday, we’re going to explore the power of saying “no” in our own modern families – not necessarily to try to cut ourselves off from them if they are causing us imbalance, heartache, and pain – but to use the word “no” to help put up healthy boundaries in our lives.

And with boundaries, we discover our own identity and power, a gift from God.

I hope this sounds intriguing and helpful to you – come learn more and share in the conversation this Sunday at the Table.


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